Handling Stress

From My InBox:

A young lady confidently walked around the room while leading and explaining stress management to an audience; with a raised glass of water, and everyone knew she was going to ask the ultimate question, 'half empty or half full?'..... she fooled them all... "How heavy is this glass of water?", she inquired with a smile. 
Answers called out ranged from 8 oz. to 20 oz.  

She replied, "The absolute weight doesn't matter. It depends on how long I hold it. If I hold it for a minute, that's not a problem.  If I hold it for an hour, I'll have an ache in my right arm. If I hold it for a day, you'll have to call an ambulance. In each case it's the same weight, but the longer I hold it, the heavier it becomes." 

She continued, "and that's the way it is with stress. If we carry our burdens all the time, sooner or later, as the burden becomes increasingly heavy, we won't be able to carry on."  

"As with the glass of water, you have to put it down for a while and rest before holding it again.  When we're refreshed, we can carry on with the burden - holding stress longer and better each time practiced. 

So, as early in the evening as you can, put all your burdens down. Don't carry them through the evening and into the night... pick them up tomorrow. 
Whatever burdens you're carrying now, let them down for a moment. Relax, pick them up later after you've rested. Life is short. Enjoy it and the now 'supposed' stress that you've conquered!" 
1 * Accept the fact that some days you're the pigeon,
         and some days you're the statue! 
2 * Always keep your words soft and sweet, just in case you have to eat them.  3 * Always read stuff that will make you look good if you die in the middle of it. 
4 * Drive carefully... It's not only cars that can be recalled by their Maker..  5 * If you can't be kind, at least have the decency to be vague 
6 * If you lend someone $20 and never see that person again, it was probably worth it..  7 * It may be that your sole purpose in life is simply to serve as a warning to others. 
8 * Never buy a car you can't push.  9 * Never put both feet in your mouth at the same time, because then you won't have a leg to stand on.  

10 * Nobody cares if you can't dance well. 

Just get up and dance. 
11 * Since it's the early worm that gets eaten by the bird, sleep late.  

12 * The second mouse gets the cheese.
13 * When everything's coming your way, 

you're in the wrong lane.  

14 * Birthdays are good for you. The more 

you have, the longer you live.  

15 * You may be only one person in the world, but you may also be the world to one person.

16 * Some mistakes are too much fun to make only once.
17 * We could learn a lot from crayons.
Some are sharp, some are pretty and
some are dull. Some have weird
names and all are different colors,
but they all have to live in the same box. 
18 * A truly happy person is one who can enjoy the scenery on a detour.


19 * Have an awesome day and know that 

someone thought about you today. 
20 * It was me, your friend! 
*Save the earth..... It's the only planet with chocolate !* 
  

Stress

I have received a message almost similar to this before:

A lecturer when explaining stress management to an audience, raised a glass of water and asked "How heavy is this glass of water?"
Answers called out ranged from 20g to 500g.

The lecturer replied, "The absolute weight doesn't matter. It depends on how long you try to hold it.

If I hold it for a minute, that's not a problem.
If I hold it for an hour, I'll have an ache in my right arm.
If I hold it for a day, you'll have to call an ambulance.

In each case, it's the same weight, but the longer I hold it, the heavier it becomes."

He continued, "And that's the way it is with stress management. If we carry our burdens all the time, sooner or later, as the burden becomes increasingly heavy, we won't be able to carry on. "

"As with the glass of water, you have to put it down for a while and rest before holding it again.
When we're refreshed, we can carry on with the burden."

"So, before you return home tonight, put the burden of work down. Don't carry it home. You can pick it up tomorrow. Whatever burdens you're carrying now, let them down for a moment if you can."

So, my friend put down anything that may be a burden to you right now. Don't pick it up again until after you've rested a while.

Here are some great ways of dealing with the burdens of life:
* Accept that some days you're the pigeon... And some days you're the statue.
* Always keep your words soft and sweet, just in case you have to eat them.
* Always read stuff that will make you look good if you die in the middle of reading it.
* Drive carefully. It's not only cars that can be recalled by their maker.
* If you can't be kind, at least have the decency to be vague.
* If you lend someone $20 and never see that person again, it was probably worth it.
* It may be that your sole purpose in life is simply being kind to others.
* Never put both feet in your mouth at the same time, because then you won't have a leg to stand on.
* Nobody cares if you can't dance well. Just get up and dance.
* Since it's the early worm that gets eaten by the bird, sleep late.
* The second mouse gets the cheese.
* When everything's coming your way, you're in the wrong lane.
* Birthdays are good for you. The more you have, the longer you live.
* You may be only one person in the world, but you may also be the world to one person.
* Some mistakes are too much fun to only make once.
* We could learn a lot from crayons . . . Some are sharp, some are pretty and some are dull. Some have weird names, and all are different colors, but they all have to live in the same box.
*A truly happy person is one who can enjoy the scenery on a detour.

Make an awesome day and know that someone has thought about you today...I did.

Poetry or sword? What do you want to create?

"What do you call a person who writes rows and rows of words, Mummy?" Hmmm, who could my little boy be referring to? "Are you talking about a poet?", I wondered.

My son ran off happily with my answer and left me thinking of a question that I would like to know the answer myself; that is, what do I call a person who writes or uses angry words. Here is my reflection.

While poets writes beautiful words to inspire
In moments of anger people instigate
Fights can erupt
Crimes are committed

While a string of beautiful words are poetry
A string of angry words is a S W O R D
Like a thrusting piece of metal
The words can cut and hurt as deeply

Cuts from a glistening sword
Can heal with care
A scar stays to remind
the depth...the pain -

Can an expression of remorse
heal wounds that fester in the heart?
You will soon know
In the next moment of anger

I am not going to guess and get my answers wrong where emotions are concerned. With the help of my children, we have thought up of a way to cool us down in our moments of anger. I hope the recipe works for you too.

Anger Coolant

Ingredient A
Tone: Most TV inspired robotic sound you can create
Chant: "Please remain calm", repeatedly, like a spoiled record

Ingredient B (Optional)
Hand and knee movement: Slow up and down motion like in a Tai Chi exercise

Method

Face instigator and apply ingredient A and watch reaction. Keep adding ingredient A still instigator burst into laughter. Failing which, add ingredient B.

Check out the prop I created to remind my children to be mindful of their speech.

Also, note that it has been scientifically discovered that you cannot hold negative thoughts, stay angry or worry while you are smiling. When you smile, the brain releases a flood of endorphin-like chemicals along with a series of signals that make holding on to such emotions impossible.

So, instigate a smile and have a great day.

Put The Glass Down

A professor was giving a lecture to his student on stress management.

He began his class by holding up a glass with some water in it. He held it up for all to see & asked the students: “How much do you think this glass weighs?”


"50gms!" .... "100gms!" ....."125gms" ..the students answered.


“I really don't know unless I weigh it,” said the professor, “but, my question is: What would happen if I held it up like this for a few minutes?”


"Nothing" …..the students said.

"Ok what would happen if I held it up like this for an hour?", the professor asked.

"Your arm would begin to ache", said one of the student.

“You're right, now what would happen if I held it for a day?”

“Your arm could go numb, you might have severe muscle stress & paralysis and have to go to hospital for sure!”, ventured another student and all the students laughed.

“Very good. But during all this, did the weight of the glass change?”, asked the professor.


"No" was the answer.

“Then what caused the arm ache and the muscle stress?”

The students were puzzled.

“What should I do now to come out of pain?”, asked professor again.

“Put the glass down!”, said one of the students.

“Exactly!”, said the professor.

Life's problems are something like this:
Hold it for a few minutes in your head and they seem okay. Think of them for a long time, and they begin to ache. Hold it even longer, and they begin to paralyze you.

It's important to think of the challenges or problems in your life, but EVEN MORE IMPORTANT is to "PUT THEM DOWN" at the end of every day before you go to sleep. That way, you are not stressed, you wake up every day fresh and strong, and can handle any issue, any new challenges that comes your way!